And that´s the thing you can never allow yourself to forget if you´re trying to deal with this subject, people on welfare are people just the same as you and me are.
That's why I keep stressing the point of individual variation. People on welfare vary considerably in personality, upbringing, nature, nurture etc just like those of us on the Forum do. And even in the exact same situation different people will react wildly differently. So I have a strong preference for private charities which can do a much better job of tailoring programs to the individual than the one size fits all government programs. Government program flexibility may also be easier in small countries like Sweden with a pop of 10 million than the US with a pop of 300 million.
I have found the concept of "tough love" to be mostly an excuse for the ones providing it to be "unpleasant" and still be able to say "but it´s for a good cause!".
I partially agree with you here. The concept has been greatly abused. However, it is a valid technique and works well with some personality types (not all - individual variation again). So I tend to base my judgement on whether or not it is an excuse on the person calling for the tough love approach. If it is one of those sociopathic talking heads - it's an excuse. If it is someone working on the front lines with personal knowledge, I take that viewpoint very seriously.
In Sweden, currently, prisons are actually being closed down due to a lack of prisoners. In USA, you´ve got more than 10 times as many prisoners per capita, and the difference is increasing.
Be happy to ship you a few to fill up that extra space. If you can manage to rehab them, it would be a whole lot cheaper for us in the long run. Good luck.
I´ve still been in contact with literally thousands of people(and a fair portion of them, people with "unfortunate" lifes so to speak(because i´ve been chronically ill since i was 10)), and if there is one thing that is the same between people, a job is a defining thing, it can be being aknowledged or valued, it can be to be allowed to do what you want to do, it can be a way to get a decent life, interact with people etc etc etc, almost noone seriously wants to be outside of all of what a job can give.
I generally prefer the US and our government and culture. The problem of the semi-disabled is an exception to that. Those I know have it rather rough here. They aren't sick enough to legitimately qualify for government disability payments but they are sick enough for it to impact their lives including their working lives. They legitimately have to take extra sick days, extra time off to visit doctors, for those companies which self insure they cost more healthcare dollars etc etc. So when it's layoff time, guess who gets added to the layoff lists? It's not legal but a good lawyer can work around that. The talking heads keep talking about how if they're a great employee, the employer will be motivated to accommodate them in spite of the added costs etc. But in real life most aren't exceptional employees. Like everyone else most are good solid employees but aren't exceptional (exceptional people disabled or not are rather rare). Most work hard, do a good job etc but so do the non-disabled colleagues they are competing with.
The thing is that there seems to be a version of the prosperity gospel among some US conservatives, especially those that trumpet "personal responsibility". There seems to be a strong belief that if someone becomes destitute, it's inevitably his fault in some way.
Agreed. (Specifically - agree that the belief is present among a significant number of influential individuals, not that it is a correct correct belief. Conservatives can point to examples that fit this worldview. Liberals can point to the opposite. In reality both worldviews are correct just for different individuals. Back to that individual variation theme again).
Along with that protestant belief was also the belief that charity was an individual's responsibility. Americans give more to charity per capita than any other nation. In many ways welfare isn't charity but a right. It sticks in one's craw that someone has the right to mooch off of me. I already give to charity and don't mind supporting folks who need help through welfare. I do mind the welfare cheats who believe they have a right to mooch off of me. No one has the right to live off of my work but I do have the responsibility to help my fellow man.
Charity is something Americans are really good at.