cthia wrote:A few of them suggest that she's only pretending to be twelve as a front to refuse their advances. They met her at her last piano recital where she was dressed in a gown with makeup that made her look much older with her already grownup mannerisms. She doesn't act like your average twelve year old and her height doesn't help.
TheMonster wrote:
This explains a lot. If she's going to look and act like an adult, she has to expect people to assume she is one, and not be surprised when they freak out when they hear the truth. Part of what bothers them is the realization that those advances could have landed them in jail or worse, had they been accepted.
It also explains why you have expressed such ... concern over the ramifications of the situation. She can't even show them her driver's license to prove her age, because she's too young to have one.
I remember being able to walk into a bar and order a drink without being asked for ID when I was 16. I was 6'6", 250# with a full beard. Everyone thought I was 25. I could have gotten a job with the state ABC bureau busting bars for selling liquor to underage drinkers.
You're absolutely correct, about
looking the part of an adult. It's her height. Her hair is really long as well, which lends itself to elaborate hairstyles...French twists, curls, buns and the like. To me she always appears to be a little princess. She wears the elaborate styles for fashion and because her hair is so long it aids in manageability. Just like all of my sisters and nieces before her they don't wish to constantly brush hair away from their face all day. It's the native american heritage.
As far as
acting like an adult Monster, please don't say that. She objects to it. She says that it isn't fair or correct to say that she is acting like an adult simply because she acts...classy, composed, confident. Poised. People improperly attribute her high IQ to maturity. Now I know what you mean and I know that you don't intend offense. She's just...sensitive in that area because some people use it as a defense when losing discussions to her.
She has never actually
had a chance to be surprised when people freak out about her age since it began long before her second birthday. What bothers her is the inability of people to separate 'who' she is from how old she is. She likes engaging conversation. Invariably people immediately underestimate her which usually leads to them sticking their foot in their mouth. It's difficult to sound intelligent with a mouth full of foot. It's like talking with food in your mouth. At formal dinner parties my sister and I can always see it coming. We formerly tried to sway conversation away from her, which we soon realized wasn't fair. Besides it isn't easy when you've got the older adults showing normal interest in her. "Well tell us a little about yourself young lady," or "What are you interested in?" Even if I'm not looking at her I can feel my sister bristling in her seat. Me too. The problem is we're not sure if it's the people we're trying to protect or my niece. Why did we once try to control conversation? The incident...
A formal dinner party at my sister's home. My sister has a PhD in both biology and chemistry, and is involved in research. She works in RTP (Research Triangle Park) which employs one of the highest concentrations of PhD's and M.D.'s in the world. My niece and I jokingly refer to the entire RTP hub as Hephaestus (after the RMN shipyard). So obviously her colleagues are all going to be quite knowledgeable, and her dinner parties are sometimes samples of these people. My niece sees these parties as a chance for engaging conversation. She's a brilliant twelve year old with no one to talk to but adults.
Admittedly, my niece may have been a bit rude as she began to scribble chess notations on a cotton napkin, which drew the attention of my sister because these were some of her favorite table wear, which drew the attention of her guests. My niece had just gotten bored over the shop talk.
"Are those chess notations?"
"Yes sir, they are."
"You a good chess player?"
"I don't get beat often. Hardly ever. Many people don't respect openings."
Right away, trouble. My niece was scribbling notations dealing with the Queens Gambit. It's one of her favorite openings on a 2D board, certainly against an inexperienced player. Not very popular because modern players just use the Indian defense or the Slav defense against it. But on a 3D board possibilities make it not so straightforward. In fact my niece says the Indian defense is a losing proposition on a 3D board, and the Slav defense is quite tricky, meaning, against her you'll lose.
Off of the breakfast nook is a small room whose floor is a chess board. The pieces are over 3 ft. high. Two stools. First game the guy was pushing pieces like they were hot. My niece asked him to slow down. He thought she was asking for her own benefit. Huge mistake. If she had to play, she just wanted a good game. In less than one whirlwind of a minute, the guy was facing either losing his queen, or a rook and a developed knight and possibly two pawns. Now he slows the pace, recognizing his predicament. He chooses to save his queen and offer up his rook and knight. She ignores. Mate in three. Two more games in two more minutes.
Back at the table. "Well a student should know more than just chess. What else are you interested in?"
Oh no!
"I want to study physics at Uni."
"Ah, physics. Well you have to be good in many school subjects, like mathematics, if you want to tackle physics young lady."
Within the next five minutes my niece had left him a blubbering idiot. The poor guy has a bachelors in physics but his forte is medicine, where he holds a Ph.D. And it showed. My niece had him so beet red that everyone felt sorry for him. His wife finally stopped the conversation by pouring champagne on his head. "Dear, stop. You lost this conversation before we even arrived. This is the brilliant ten year old," my niece was a few days away from turning eleven, "the one I have been communicating back and forth with about applied physics to cosmology. It is her work that you read and said she was brilliant. Since I have a PhD., in physics, I'll take it from here." Afterwards we tried to prevent similar repeats of that embarassing dinner party, but it just makes it awkward.
He had thought that my ten year old niece was my sister's older eighteen year old who was about to attend college. However she was upstairs in bed sick.
When introducing her we try to give her age beforehand. But certain situations doesn't always afford the chance to do so before impressions are already formed. In cases involving older boys my sister normally allows me to take the lead. It's easier for me and more natural and expected from a father figure. I usually just introduce her, acknowledge her beauty, you have to acknowledge her beauty, it shines like a spot light and older boys stare at her like comatose robots, and add, "She's only twelve so behave." It prevents them from later awkward situations and prevents, usually, my niece from fending off the advances of much older students. Usually works.
Funny about you never getting carded for ID Monster. I still get carded sometimes and I'm twice the age of many carding me!